Er, I wouldn't want a man. I'm not that way inclined, thanks. Is it impossible for the organisers of such an event to imagine that gay women might use cosmetics? Are gay women all so damned ugly we hide behind the sofa crouched into a foetal mass with a bin bag to protect the sensitive from being appalled by our appearance? Is there a law that states gay women can't buy lipgloss? Or be invited to events where lipgloss is promoted? They couldn't have just said "man or woman"? Too much trouble?
|Portia de Rossi - with cosmetics|
Are all gay women mingers? I know you probably think this is a tedious subject and why do gay women harp on so much about alleged discrimination and prejudice when they live in the UK in 2012 and there are laws against homophobic attacks and it's not as if we are executed for it as men and women still are in other countries?
|Not getting at benefit particularly. I do hope other companies are a bit more inclusive but I'm not holding my breath.|
|Ellen and Portia|
Well, partly because I've had anonymous abuse and rubbish posted through my letter box. Partly because my kids had other kids follow them around shouting at them (and it wasn't a 'bad' area). I moved house. Partly because I get fed up with the assumption that I must be straight. I know most people aren't gay but we're not so rare that we ought to be completely ignored. Partly because I have to be careful not to out myself at work in case I offend someone and they then find they can't/won't work with me. Oh, even my new neighbours see fit to mention to their friends over drinks on their patio that they'd hate for their daughter to be gay. Loudly. Hey, it's better than the last place.
Vegetarians must get this too. "Oh, you don't eat meat? Well....hm, I suppose I could rustle you up a mushroom .....". Mumble, stumble, make the vegetarian feel awkward for being so 'difficult'. Assumptions.
I know there are far greater injustices being perpetrated in this world. But, in the same way we try to stop ourselves assuming lawyers and doctors are male because in so supposing we do women (ourselves, our daughters) a disservice, could we try to allow gay people the opportunity not to make that troubling decision to either a/ be silent ("Well, I'd better not stick up my hand at this point and say I prefer women. Too embarrassing.") or b/ have to be militant standard-bearers for the gay community ("Hellooo! We're not all straight, you know!") by just assuming for once that there will almost certainly be some gay people at most events. Except maybe .....no, I can't actually think of a gathering when you could be 100% sure everyone was straight.